Fostering Independence in Toddlers

Written By Jessica Brandel-Briggs

The Montessori method emphasizes fostering independence in toddlers by providing them with opportunities for self-care, exploration, and decision-making.

Here are some ways to incorporate this approach at home:

Prepare the Environment:

  • Low shelves: Install shelves at your toddler's eye level stocked with a few, well-chosen toys at a time. Rotate them regularly to keep things interesting. This allows them to choose their own activities and put things away independently.

  • Practical life activities: Set up a low table and sink in the kitchen or bathroom, with child-sized utensils, cups, and a pitcher of water. This allows them to practice pouring, washing dishes, or sweeping.

 

Offer Choices and Respect Decisions:

  • Simple choices: Present your toddler with two options for breakfast or playtime activities. This empowers them to make small decisions and feel a sense of control.

  • Respect their choices: Once they've made a choice, respect it as much as possible. This builds trust and encourages them to continue making decisions.

 
 
 

Encourage Self-Care:

  • Dressing: Provide clothes that are easy to put on and take off, like elastic-waist pants and shirts without buttons. Offer choices between two outfits you approve of and let them dress themselves, even if it takes longer.

  • Mealtimes: Offer a small, child-sized table and chair for independent snacking. Provide a plate, cup, and utensils small enough for their hands.

Focus on Process, Not Perfection:

  • Let them try: When your toddler wants to help with a task, let them participate even if it takes longer or isn't perfect. Offer guidance, but allow them to try independently as much as possible.

  • Focus on learning: The Montessori approach emphasizes the joy of learning through exploration. The mess created while pouring water or putting on shoes is less important than the learning process itself.

 

Additional Tips:

  • Minimize distractions: Turn off the TV and put away electronic devices during playtime. This allows your child to focus on the activity at hand.

  • Use positive language: Instead of saying "Don't do that," offer guidance like "Let's try pouring the water slowly."

  • Be patient: Learning independence takes time and practice. Be patient and celebrate their small victories.

By incorporating these Montessori principles, you can create a home environment that nurtures your toddler's natural desire for independence and sets them on the path to becoming a confident and capable individual.

 
 
 
 
 
 
Jessica Brandel-Briggs